Many of you out there who have been reading this blog for a period of time may recall a series of posts I made about a pretty terrifying situation that had befallen my family…again. A sociopath who was preying on my father for over a decade – financially, emotionally, spiritually, etc. I wrote about this here and here.

He caused me so much terror concern that in 2014 I confronted this scary individual, alerting him that I was aware of his exploitation, considered it nothing less than elder abuse and I put him on notice. He had been escalating. It was time to intervene after a decade of monitoring his manipulations and abuse.


His response was so vile, so threatening that I obtained my own legal counsel, discussed restraining orders, consulted my father’s lawyers and money managers and even had a long discussion with an FBI agent about the interstate nature of the extortion possibly going on (he took it so seriously he spoke to me for over a half an hour interviewing me saying it didn’t meet the criteria for extortion but if certain things escalated to call him back).  It was a terrifying time and one I’ve never really felt fully out of of the woods from. As one attorney said to me “they said about Elvis, you can’t save someone from themselves”.


I set about protecting our family estate for my brother and I as best I could yet lived with a slow hum of fear every day in the background. I knew this man was laying in wait and had invested so much for so long that he was going for a piece of the big pie– my father’s rather large estate. It’s been an entirely stressful two years with a written on the wall future. At one point he was attempting to get my father to change his Power of Attorney from me, to him– a person completely not integrated in to our social or family network.

I knew there would be a battle coming –  everyone did – either in my father’s life or death. This man had put a plan in motion and felt my father owed him. Very sick dynamics at play. It forced me over and over again to throw this to the realm of spiritual protection.

Airborne Operations

I found out today that this pathological dangerous man was killed in a freak accident while vacationing in Mexico. He was electrocuted.


It is not lost on me that the men who murdered my sister, also sociopaths, still sit on Death Row/ in prison and this second wave of sociopathy to land in our family received a form of execution.

It is also not lost on me that he received his sentence for his crimes on the birthday of my friend who was the person who broke the silence on his exploitation of my father about 10 years ago. There are so many elements to this story but I keep them silent to protect certain privacies.

There are times in life to feel relieved when a death has occured.


This is one of them.

There is balance. There is protection. There is justice.

Now let the deep breaths of exhalation begin.


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Just to follow up on my previous post, I am definitely seriously embroiled right now in protecting my family from a dangerous person.  There have been discussions and the situation is in a state of semi chaos at the moment.  I have an appointment this week with my attorney to discuss how to proceed including a potential restraining order.  I’m just going to hash it out with him and follow his advice.  It’s not really how I intended to start off 2014 but this has been a festering boil for over a decade and it was escalating therefore time to confront it.  You don’t pop that kind of infection and not expect the pus to ooze (sorry for the graphic, it’s just the way it is).

The good thing is this man is across the country with limited means.  But my father admits he has potential for violence against both of us (which did not surprise me in the least) yet he is unable to close the door at this stage.  My father also said “he does have sociopathic traits”.  (duh).


It is my opinion that this is a classic case of elder abuse and I may be proceeding along those lines.  I just don’t know yet.  I do know that this is why lawyers exist to guide you in situations like this.

I also know we’ve had two too many sociopaths in our family already, which I told my father.  But I’ve said it for 25 years, I never underestimate the manipulative power of a sociopath and my father is firmly entrenched in his clutches.


It’s a very sticky wicket.  Please keep me in your prayers.  I seriously hoped I’d never have to confront this kind of thing again in my life but here I am again.  It’s disheartening.  Luckily I have a lot of people in law enforcement and the legal world who have my back.  I still don’t like the notion of this snake in our sphere though.  He doesn’t really know who he’s messing with apparently.  He’s had the audacity to become verbally abusive and threatening with me now–not smart.   Even though he’s been circling around sneaky in our sphere for over a decade, I’ve only met him twice.  But I’m a sleuther and have a whole lot of information and am not afraid to share it where it matters.

Part of the reason I’m writing at all about this on the blog is to heighten the documentation/awareness.  He’s been hiding in his hideyhole for too long.  I think shining light on this kind of thing is a smart thing to do.


On another note, Alfonse and I had our first Ballroom Dance class last night and had a blast!  He did really well.  The teacher is a trip–it’s almost like she’s a character in one of those “Best In Show” movies, super serious in a funny way.  I’ll have to get a pic of her.


We’re going every week now for a three months I think.  I think we will get pretty good!  haha  It’s fun to have that to do together and to see Alfonse come alive with other people too.  It’s good for us!

Please keep holding my family in light right now.  We need it.


Oh wait, how could I forget?  I’d like to introduce this sociopath to my bodyguard.  Ok?  I think I’ll direct any future threats and abuses to be sent via Sebastian.  😉





It’s sad to say that our family has repeatedly been touched by sociopaths.

Obviously in the case of Cindy, my sister, who was murdered by a sociopath or at least one sociopath with his accomplice, a weaker personality, but still violent brother.

My father’s life has been also touched by a sociopath who I’m in the process right now of dealing with and protecting all of us from.  It’s taken a few years for the bubble to be burst on this escalating toxic situation but it happened.  And I can honestly say I feel a sense of relief for that.  Luckily, at this stage, I have attorneys and support in place to help us manage it.  Sociopaths are dangerous.  And they prey on vulnerable people, for example an elderly man whose life has been exceedingly challenging.


The attorney who prosecuted the men who killed my sister met this sociopath parasitically attached to my father once and identified him as “the scariest person I’ve ever met”.  And I’ve been knowing he’s in our family’s sphere for over a decade feeling the exact same way.  Trying to figure out what to do.  2014 is different.

I know what to do.


I’m fielding off this toxic person directly right now–alone– and dealing with his escalation that the lid has been blown on his cover.  I went searching for some basic guidelines that I’ve not read for awhile about how to deal with sociopathy.  I thought this may be helpful out there.

The man who has infiltrated our lives represents every single characteristic on this list.

1. Do you often feel used by the person?

2. Have you often felt that he (or she, because women can be sociopaths too) doesn’t care about you?

3. Does he lie and deceive you?

4. Does he tend to make contradictory statements?

5. Does he tend to take from you and not give back much?

6. Does he often appeal to pity? Does he seem to try to make you feel sorry for him?

7. Does he try to make you feel guilty?

8. Do you sometimes feel he is taking advantage of your good nature?

9. Does he seem easily bored and need constant stimulation?

10. Does he use a lot of flattery? Does he interact with you in a way that makes you feel flattered even if he says nothing overtly complimentary?

11. Does he make you feel worried? Does he do it obviously or more cleverly and sneakily?

12. Does he give you the impression you owe him?

13. Does he chronically fail to take responsibility for harming others? Does he blame everyone and everything but himself?

Ignoring, creating a boundary of protection and holding it is where I’m at right now.  And getting support around me/my family.  It’s scary and I, of all people, know what sociopaths are capable of.

Yes, after cancer, abuse, murder and schizophrenia life is still tossing our family drama in the form of sociopathy (again) which, in my opinion, is what evil is on this Earth.  I have learned though how to throw down a boundary.  This person is escalating because simply I don’t think he had any idea of what he might be up  against with me.

Please wish me luck navigating these waters.  I’m meeting with my attorney this week and potentially obtaining a restraining order.  I suspect that will be inevitable now.   Yes, it’s that real.  Threats have been made.

I hope this article may help someone else out there too: