It’s sad to say that our family has repeatedly been touched by sociopaths.

Obviously in the case of Cindy, my sister, who was murdered by a sociopath or at least one sociopath with his accomplice, a weaker personality, but still violent brother.

My father’s life has been also touched by a sociopath who I’m in the process right now of dealing with and protecting all of us from.  It’s taken a few years for the bubble to be burst on this escalating toxic situation but it happened.  And I can honestly say I feel a sense of relief for that.  Luckily, at this stage, I have attorneys and support in place to help us manage it.  Sociopaths are dangerous.  And they prey on vulnerable people, for example an elderly man whose life has been exceedingly challenging.


The attorney who prosecuted the men who killed my sister met this sociopath parasitically attached to my father once and identified him as “the scariest person I’ve ever met”.  And I’ve been knowing he’s in our family’s sphere for over a decade feeling the exact same way.  Trying to figure out what to do.  2014 is different.

I know what to do.


I’m fielding off this toxic person directly right now–alone– and dealing with his escalation that the lid has been blown on his cover.  I went searching for some basic guidelines that I’ve not read for awhile about how to deal with sociopathy.  I thought this may be helpful out there.

The man who has infiltrated our lives represents every single characteristic on this list.

1. Do you often feel used by the person?

2. Have you often felt that he (or she, because women can be sociopaths too) doesn’t care about you?

3. Does he lie and deceive you?

4. Does he tend to make contradictory statements?

5. Does he tend to take from you and not give back much?

6. Does he often appeal to pity? Does he seem to try to make you feel sorry for him?

7. Does he try to make you feel guilty?

8. Do you sometimes feel he is taking advantage of your good nature?

9. Does he seem easily bored and need constant stimulation?

10. Does he use a lot of flattery? Does he interact with you in a way that makes you feel flattered even if he says nothing overtly complimentary?

11. Does he make you feel worried? Does he do it obviously or more cleverly and sneakily?

12. Does he give you the impression you owe him?

13. Does he chronically fail to take responsibility for harming others? Does he blame everyone and everything but himself?

Ignoring, creating a boundary of protection and holding it is where I’m at right now.  And getting support around me/my family.  It’s scary and I, of all people, know what sociopaths are capable of.

Yes, after cancer, abuse, murder and schizophrenia life is still tossing our family drama in the form of sociopathy (again) which, in my opinion, is what evil is on this Earth.  I have learned though how to throw down a boundary.  This person is escalating because simply I don’t think he had any idea of what he might be up  against with me.

Please wish me luck navigating these waters.  I’m meeting with my attorney this week and potentially obtaining a restraining order.  I suspect that will be inevitable now.   Yes, it’s that real.  Threats have been made.

I hope this article may help someone else out there too:


11 thoughts on “sociopathy

  1. spellbound4

    I’m sorry, Katie 😦 u. I will hold you in my thoughts and keep you close. Come “visit” us here when/if it gets too tough — we will hold your hand and give heart-felt hugs.

  2. Kiminnm

    I am so glad your dad has you to help!! Yes, take the bull by the horns and get this person out of your lives! Prayers for you and your family!!

  3. Thanks guys. I’m actually glad this whole thing came to a head. This sociopath has been milking and bilking my father for at least a decade. Predator/prey. I finally felt the need and the strength and the *whatever* to say enough is enough and intervene. Meeting with my attorney this week to discuss best strategy. It’s disheartening to have to deal with something like this though, on top of everything else. But this sociopath messed with the wrong person’s father. And he knows it so is spitting fire in my direction. The good thing is he lives across the country and is perpetually broke.

  4. Zuri

    Katie, I am so glad you are exorcizing this parasite out of your family. It seems as though sociopaths prey on the vulnerable, the elderly, the lonely and milk them for all they are worth. They are the lowest form of vermin IMO. With your knowledge, tenacity and powerful legal and political connections, there is no doubt in my mind you will prevail. There seems to come a time where the “child” become the protector of the “parent”, and I am so glad your dad has you.

  5. norsegirl

    Katie, I had a feeling it would come to this. Sending prayers of love and protection for you, Alphonse and especially your father. Life has prepared you for this moment- you are strong and so very brave and capable. We all need reminders of what these people are actually capable of, because according to research about 1 in 25 people is a sociopath. Scary… but oh so true. Most of them will never commit “crimes” per se, or be violent, but the havoc these individuals reek on friends, lovers and relatives is always devastating. Thank you for sharing! XO

  6. ami wilson kalisek

    You are often in my head. I am dealing with a person, indirectly but dealing anyway who is likely borderline sociopathic. This makes it clear. Thank you. Holding you and your family close to my heart. Ami

  7. Rose

    Good luck KCL. Do whatever you need to do to protect your family and yourself. We’re all here for you every step of the way.

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