I am overwhelmed with the support I got for that post yesterday! So many comments, wise and supportive.
Yes I got angry. I have worked hard to get comfortable with all my emotions. Anger can be a positive thing when it helps you set a boundary.
What’s kind of interesting/funny is after I wrote all that, I still got another private message from someone still trying to school me on how I should change my brother’s diet in order to cure his Schizophrenia. It even started with “I know you’re overwhelmed but…”. Why then dump more things to have to manage when you know someone is overwhelmed what they are already managing?
Maybe I would have been less reactive to these opinions if I wasn’t smack dab in the weeds with John.
These are some of the unique challenges with mental illness. It’s awkward, nebulous, we’re all stumbling through trying to figure it out. But really, if someone’s in any kind of emergency status with any health problem, is probably not the best time to give advice for how they got there, unless of course you’re a professional working with that person helping mitigate the crisis.
I don’t know what motivates people to do such things. But I do know if there’s not a “schooling” that bounces back, they will continue it. Maybe they will stop and think next time.
All I know is using that anger to set a boundary feels appropriate and it’s a far better choice for me than stuffing it and feeling like crap.
I also know that all of you cheering me on felt just 28 shades of worth it to me.
I never knew when I started writing this blog that it would develop in to a small community of such wonderful people gathering in support of each other.
It’s a very heartening thing to experience, let me tell you!
Well Alfonse just informed me he’s ready to hit the road to Sedona. I need to shower and get myself packed so better wrap this up.
Just wanted to say a heartfelt GRACIAS to each and every one of you out there. As each comment came in, it was like opening a little present. And you all warm my heart and make me feel less alone on this sometimes lonely planet.
Oh and feel free to take a petit fors on the way out.
I love you all…..and…………….